Ask Sarah: I have an undersized penis, how can I still satisfy my female partner

There’s much more to sex than just penetration.

Dear Sarah,

I have an undersized penis. I want to know how I can still satisfy my female partner despite my limitation. Thank you

                                

Dear anonymous,

Sex isn’t all about penetration. A lot of men feel like their penises aren’t big enough. While others are perfectly well endowed.

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For men and women, sex isn’t all about penetration. For women, penetration is only a very small part of sex with their partners.  Unless a woman is already excited and has been fully aroused before penetration, she won’t be very sexually responsive to penetration all on its own whether you’re large, medium or small.

A woman needs to be adequately warmed up before penetration of any size will feel good. There’s much more to sex than just penetration. Many women achieve better orgasms through oral sex regardless of their partner’s penis size. You can also include a number of sex toys in the bedroom, like vibrators, lubes and more.

Men who are afraid that their small penis won’t please their partner should definitely talk to their partner about how they can improve their sex lives.

If you’re concerned that your partner finds your penis too small, talk to them. You might find that your partner is perfectly happy with the size of your member, even if you’re not.

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If you’re concerned that your penis is a little too small, it’s important to do what you can to help relieve the situation. Life is too short to be unhappy with your sexual performance!

You can talk to your partner to find out what they would like to see happen in the bedroom, or you can incorporate a number of sex toys and lubricants into your sexual routine to help increase you and your partner’s sexual pleasure.

If you’re still not satisfied with the size of your penis or your sexual performance, you can talk with your doctor about more permanent options.